I think it is safe to say when it comes to motherhood we are our own worst critic. I know that I personally have such a hard time remembering to stop for a moment and see how well that I have raised my daughters so far.
With the growing amount of pressure that society and the media throw at us:
Lose your baby weight before you leave the hospital!
Gasp--you don't breastfeed?!
You must bottle feed!
Every mom needs to stay at home!
Go to work-women fought for your rights to do so!
You must make home cooked meals with preferably organic foods only, no sugar and definitely NO HAPPY MEALS!
You must maintain a spotless home!
Show me your gorgeous flowers outside in your perfectly landscaped yard!
I could honestly go on and on and on. So why is it that so many times other women--other moms--are our worst critics? The stress and anxiety that this causes is quite overwhelming to me. You would probably assume that by now, three children later, that I would let comments/snide remarks/snobby looks roll off of me. But honestly? It hasn't changed much since I had my Isabella almost 4 years ago.
Even while pregnant with her I would get comments from people about how I was doing this wrong, not supposed to do that, etc. It's enough to make us scream. Nobody is perfect. No parent is perfect. If it seems like they are? Rest assured that they are far from it. We're all human. We all are bound to make a mistake at some point in our lives raising our children.
I definitely have had those moments....and I still am to this day.
Nothing has prompted me to write this post. I just feel like sometimes, as a woman and a mom, that I need to give ALL of my readers a hug and reassure you all that you are doing an amazing job at being a mom. Nobody knows better than you what is best for your child, your family.
So, to my readers? Keep doing that fabulous job of being a mom. Nobody rocks it quite like you do!
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Saturday, June 18, 2011
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
The One With Changes...
Since becoming a Mom I have endured many, many changes in my life. Haven't we all? It's like once you know you are expecting--whether it's by those two pink lines, adoption, etc--your life, although still technically your life has changed in a big, big way...
1. Sleeping in is a thing of the past. Once you welcome that child into your life the sleepless nights start adding up and you honestly cannot remember the last time you woke up not tired. You also count waking up around 7:00 to have slept in. The upside to this is that you now get more done in these early hours. I cannot believe how much I get done before noon now!
2. Your conversations with other parents can be about any and/or all of the following with nobody batting an eyelash: poop, spit up, teething, poop, food, tantrums, poop. This can take place while eating, drinking drinks, etc.
3. Money that used to be for your manis, pedis, hair, clothes, and dates now goes to baby food, diapers, toys, books, dvd's, replacement toys, batteries for said toys. The funny thing about this is that you don't mind one bit with this. As long as I know my girls are happy I can keep on giving myself manis/pedis, stretching out my roots for a few weeks longer and only buying clothes for myself when it's absolutely necessary.
4. Control over the TV. You know when you got married/moved in with significant other and had to compromise on what shows would be watched and when? Well, once the little ones come? It's their choice. Even if you don't allow them to watch TV {that's so not me by the way....} you still have to make sure that there is something child friendly on the tube. What....you mean Rock of Love isn't acceptable to watch anymore??
5. Going to the bathroom. Alone. Those days? Are over--kiss that time goodbye! You may occasionally get to go to the porcelain throne alone...but, oh, 99.75% of the time? You'll have another set of hands in there with you. You have no idea how much I appreciate to have that bathroom time alone! And you also have no idea how many icy glares I cast towards the bathroom when Leo is in there. By himself. Door closed. And no children. This also goes towards showering/bathing....
What are your big changes that have happened since motherhood?
1. Sleeping in is a thing of the past. Once you welcome that child into your life the sleepless nights start adding up and you honestly cannot remember the last time you woke up not tired. You also count waking up around 7:00 to have slept in. The upside to this is that you now get more done in these early hours. I cannot believe how much I get done before noon now!
2. Your conversations with other parents can be about any and/or all of the following with nobody batting an eyelash: poop, spit up, teething, poop, food, tantrums, poop. This can take place while eating, drinking drinks, etc.
3. Money that used to be for your manis, pedis, hair, clothes, and dates now goes to baby food, diapers, toys, books, dvd's, replacement toys, batteries for said toys. The funny thing about this is that you don't mind one bit with this. As long as I know my girls are happy I can keep on giving myself manis/pedis, stretching out my roots for a few weeks longer and only buying clothes for myself when it's absolutely necessary.
4. Control over the TV. You know when you got married/moved in with significant other and had to compromise on what shows would be watched and when? Well, once the little ones come? It's their choice. Even if you don't allow them to watch TV {that's so not me by the way....} you still have to make sure that there is something child friendly on the tube. What....you mean Rock of Love isn't acceptable to watch anymore??
5. Going to the bathroom. Alone. Those days? Are over--kiss that time goodbye! You may occasionally get to go to the porcelain throne alone...but, oh, 99.75% of the time? You'll have another set of hands in there with you. You have no idea how much I appreciate to have that bathroom time alone! And you also have no idea how many icy glares I cast towards the bathroom when Leo is in there. By himself. Door closed. And no children. This also goes towards showering/bathing....
What are your big changes that have happened since motherhood?
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